Scared to be pregnant again?

Experience your pregnancy without the fear and anxiety of your

past loss(es), pregnancy complications, or preterm birth

So you're TTC or are newly pregnant after a complicated, dark, difficult, heartbreaking journey. 

Let me make sure I understand where you are right now...

You’ve tried all.the.things to help with your anxiety, fears and worries (yoga, deep breathing, meditation, therapy) but the calming effects just don’t stick and you're sick of it.

You’ve lost trust in the medical system because your voice was not heard or trusted in your previous pregnancy. This time you're ready to do whatever it takes to make sure that doesn't happen again.

Feeling (or imagining feeling) the blood pressure cuff around your arm sends you into a spiral of panic.

Every time you walk to the bathroom, your whole body braces you for what you'll find. Every time, you examine the toilet paper from every single angle, convinced you've seen a tinge of blood.

Days when you don't feel pregnancy symptoms freak you out. But every twinge and pull freaks you out as well. There is no reprieve to the fear and worry.

You've lost faith that your body can stay pregnant safely. You notice you're snapping at your partner and loved ones more often than ever before. You don't recognize yourself. You hate that you're doing this, but you can't stop.

You don't want to go through your entire pregnancy like this and miss out on the moments like you did before.

Does this sound about right?

 

If yes, I want you to hear this: You're not crazy. You're not being too negative, and you're not stuck in the past.

YOU'VE BEEN THROUGH SOME OF THE HARDEST EXPERIENCES A COUPLE SHOULD NEVER HAVE TO

LIVE THROUGH

 

You’ve experienced the soul-shattering moments of losing life. It takes your breath away, making it impossible to sleep, eat, be in the world without seeing pregnant bellies and babies everywhere. 

You’ve waited in sheer terror as life hung in the balance, not knowing what would happen.

You’ve watched your baby fight for his/her life, never realizing just how fragile and strong the human body can be. 

Every physical sensation in this pregnancy, from the heartburn to the round ligament pain, reminds you of what happened before and all you do is brace for the worst possible thing to happen again.

 

The anxiety is crippling, but your heart aches to bring home a healthy baby.

You've become terrified of the thing you've wanted most

You’ve probably heard from well-meaning loved ones and even professionals that you’re being too negative. You need to focus on the positive.

 

Let the past stay in the past and look forward. Just relax! (Insert eye roll)

 

But you and I both know that’s not what this is!

 

You’re not making a big deal out of nothing. You’re not being pessimistic or negative. You’re not crazy.


Your thoughts are not the problem.

 

After everything you've been through to grow your family,

you no longer feel safe in your pregnant body.

GOING THROUGH A
HIGH-RISK
PREGNANCY OR PREGNANCY AFTER LOSS(ES) OR PREMATURITY
REQUIRES SPECIALIZED CARE

Unfortunately, our system leaves a significant gap in the care for women like you who you are going through a high-risk pregnancy, especially after infertility, loss(es), prematurity, pregnancy complications and/or birth trauma.

Your OB, MFM,
& other physicians

specialize in managing the physical aspects of your prenatal health through ultrasounds, bloodwork, exams and medical treatment

Your therapist, coach
& doula

specialize in helping you cope emotionally with the ups and downs, and help you process what you’re going through. 

Your acupuncturist & meditation apps

specialize in immediate relaxation when you’re feeling anxious or worried

These are important pieces of the your prenatal health puzzle.

 

However, there is one missing piece that's critical to helping you
stay pregnant and reduce your risk of complications:

No one is teaching you how to feel safe to be pregnant again
after everything you've already been through.

WHAT DOES FEELING SAFE
IN MY BODY
HAVE TO DOWITH PREGNANCY?

When we don't feel safe in our bodies after a loss, pregnancy complications, or preterm delivery, our nervous system becomes dysregulated (meaning it doesn't function optimally). This creates sensations and experiences we call anxiety or acute/chronic stress.

When our nervous system becomes frozen in that dysregulated state, we call it trauma.

 

A dysregulated nervous system alters our endocrine (hormonal) system and
immune system, which increases our risk of pregnancy complications and preterm delivery.

Not focusing on helping you feel safe in your body during pregnancy

explains why...

... you feel better after a call or appointment with your OB or MFM, but you still find yourself Googling furiously in the middle of the night when you're certain something is going wrong.

 

... you feel calmer after a therapy or coaching session, or making a plan with your doula, only to find yourself feeling panicky when feel a pulling sensation or need to go to the bathroom.

... you feel relaxed after an acupuncture appointment or doing a meditation, yet your migraines or heart palpitations return several hours or days later.

Our work together completes your prenatal health care puzzle.

By joining the Path to Baby program, you'll go through my proprietary framework based on the concepts of prenatal psychoneuroimmunology that will teach you how to:

RELEASE: Let go of the trauma and grief from your previous pregnancies that have their roots in your body.

REVIVE the health of your nervous system so you can support your body to reduce your risk of pregnancy complications and preterm delivery.

RECLAIM your prenatal care, to avoid medical errors, and have a safe, trauma-proofed delivery, no matter when or how your baby is born.

You are not broken. You are not weak. You are not a pessimist. 

You have survived.

NOW IT'S TIME

TO SHOW YOUR BRAIN AND BODY

IT IS SAFE TO BE PREGNANT AGAIN.

Mind-blowing results are possible when you feel safe being pregnant

(instead of just trying to be more positive or hope for the best)

Real client results:

Prevented preeclampsia after a history and high-risk of developing it in her next pregnancy

Insomnia disappeared within an average of 4 days without requiring supplements or medication

 

Mood improved and anxiety decreased by an average of 50% within 2 weeks.

 

Fear of getting pregnant again decreased significantly within 1-2 weeks

 

Confidence increased to ask for more medical monitoring or asking for treatment modifications within 3 weeks of beginning the program

Attended appointments without feeling triggered within 3-4 weeks of beginning the program

Blood pressure reading improved at the doctor within 3 weeks

Nightmares and flashbacks disappeared within an average of 1 week

 

Remembered angels with peace and calm instead of overwhelming sadness and anger by 4 weeks

 

Physical pain associated with chronic pain conditions disappeared within 2-3 weeks

 

Panic episodes disappeared on average within 2-3 days

100% of clients have stayed pregnant longer than their doctors thought was possible while experiencing pregnancy complications

I credit Parijat with helping me keep my baby inside of me as long as possible (overdue in fact!) and teaching me to manage my body and feelings during a really difficult time. 

— Rima

delivered at 41 weeks after two high-risk pregnancies & preterm delivery

What you get when you join the

Path to Baby program:

Weekly hybrid 1:1 calls to Crack the Somatic Code where you'll learn exactly what your body needs and how to support your body during the dynamic experience of a high-risk pregnancy to reduce your risk of complications and preterm birth.

Unlimited 1:1 calls per month to Get More Answers. On this call, you'll learn how to navigate the medical system so your concerns are taken seriously without sounding like a bothersome patient. From questions to ask, and how to ask them, to debriefing after appointments, you will learn how to be sure your team centers you and your baby in your treatment plan, and never treats you as "just another anxious woman".

One monthly, Partner Support Q & A to ensure that your partner can know how to be your best advocate through the pregnancy and in the delivery room, without their own trauma preventing them from being present for you.

Unlimited, priority email support so you never have to feel alone again at any point of the pregnancy. Hand off the mental load of research, questions, and concerns to me so you can focus your energy on enjoying your baby's movements and picking out a name for your little miracle. 

Triage Calls as needed for whenever you experience twists and turns during your high-risk pregnancy, so we can easily and quickly adjust our plan to help you have a healthy pregnancy.

The medical system is broken, we all know this.

Imagine having a deeply personalized road map to guide you through this system so you can

  • feel safe being pregnant

  • reduce your risk of complications

  • extend your pregnancy

  • experience joy instead of fear

  • create a different pregnancy experience this time around

Too much has happened in your life that was out of your control,

where you had no choice, no say, no voice.

This time, the choice is yours to make.

Would you rather continue what you've been doing - trying all.the.things. you can think of, piecing resources together for only temporary relief, crossing your fingers for a different outcome?

OR

Would you like to have a completely different experience during your pregnancy this time around

 

  • creating changes in your body to reduce your risk of complications

  • experiencing joy instead of fear

  • and allowing yourself a chance at a healthier, happier, safer outcome this time around?

You decide!

READY TO DO THIS?

 

Please read all of the FAQs before scheduling your Health High-Risk Pregnancy Strategy Call. Please be sure to read them with your partner (if you have one) too, so you are both on the same page prior to the call.

Read ALL of the FAQs above and ready to support your body for a healthy pregnancy?

Let's talk!

FAQs

What exactly do you do?


I am a high-risk pregnancy specialist & consultant and somatic trauma professional specializing in psychoneuroimmunology. That's a fancy way of saying, I specialize in knowing how stress and traumatic stress affect your nervous system, endocrine (hormonal) system and immune system in ways that affect your pregnancy health and outcomes. I created the Path to Baby program to help you have a healthy pregnancy (even if you're at risk for complications) so you can increase your chances of bringing home a healthy baby. The goal is that you have support every step of the way so that you can restore control, hope and power. Together, we will optimize your physical and emotional health so that your body can experience the maximum benefit from any medical treatments you need. No matter what bumps or hurdles, twists or turns are thrown your way, you will not experience or navigate them alone.




What's included in the Path to Baby program?


I guide you through my proprietary framework to: 1) Uncover how your past traumas and traumatic losses are impacting your reproductive health. 2) Devise a personalized plan to increase your chances of a healthy pregnancy and healthy baby. 3) Review how the science & literature your physician likely doesn't know can help you stay pregnant (even if you're high-risk). 4) Advocate for the best prenatal care so you will not be a statistic for medical error or waved off as "just another anxious patient". 5) Provide accountability so you can stay focused and create life-long changes to your health. With a trusted framework and built-in support, you no longer have to turn to Dr. Google, online forums or Magic 8 balls to tell you what to expect. You're taking an active role in your pregnancy health to help you stay pregnant. Imagine how much time and mental energy that will free up for you to focus on things that matter - like choosing a name or preparing your big kiddo for your new addition!




I don't need more things to do. Why would I join a program that will add more to my plate?


You're right, you don't need more things to do. You don't need more breathing techniques or apps to download. What you need are the right things that are actually going to make a difference in helping you stay pregnant, have a healthy (high-risk) pregnancy, and reduce your risk of preterm delivery. We'll create a custom plan together to support you in your personalized situation that will have ripple effects throughout your pregnancy, delivery, and long-term health, even after baby is born!




Are you a doctor? A nurse? A therapist?


No, no, and not anymore. I'm obsessed with research, science and all things related to nervous system health, stress, traumatic stress and pregnancy outcomes. My knowledge comes from specialized training in somatic trauma, nervous system health, and prenatal care. It comes from having been a patient inside a broken medical system through infertility, a high-risk pregnancy, loss(es), an extremely preterm delivery, and many months in the NICU, watching my son fight for his life, and seeing how incomplete the prenatal care is when we do not include body safety and trauma work as part of it. It also comes from consulting with hundreds of women, seeing them beat medical odds when we add nervous system health and body safety into their prenatal care plan. It comes from witnessing over, and over, and over, that the work works.




Why should I believe you over my OB or MFM to help me with my pregnancy?


This is not about believing me over your doctor, it's about completing the prenatal care puzzle. Your doctor can only offer what they know. I'm coming in with a piece of the puzzle, they do not specialize in: the neuro-endo-immuno connection and how it impacts pregnancy outcomes. Our roles are completely different but absolutely complementary. With an extra set of eyes on your prenatal care to make sure your doctor hasn't missed anything and an additional way to support your body for a healthy pregnancy, together we as a team work together to help you achieve your dream of bringing home a healthy pregnancy.




Do you ever recommend anything that will go against my doctor's advice?


I will never offer medical advice, period. But I may offer suggestions related to other parts of your pregnancy care that may be different than than what your OB or MFM is recommending. I do not suggest that you you blindly follow my recommendations either. Together, we're going to map out why your doctor advised what they did (based on research, your history, your current situation.) We will also review why I'm advising what I am. We will make sure you have all the information you need to make an informed decision about what is right for you and support you to make that decision with confidence (and not fear). Also, if you're not sure or don't believe what your doctor is suggesting is right for you, and you find yourself spending much of your time consulting Dr. Google, PubMed, online forums, or your mom, that's where our work comes in too. By providing you up to date research and access to medical decision-making strategies, you will be prepared to get a a valuable second medical opinion to help support you to the right next move for you. Again, you're not doing any of this on your own!




But how is it possible that you know something my doctor doesn't to help me with my pregnancy?


Primarily, our medical system (and let's face it much of our culture) is based on the notion that mind and body are completely separate. So your OB or MFM are looking at your prenatal care from purely a physical health perspective. In actuality, there is over 70 years of research that shows the impact of nervous system dysregulation (that shows up as pregnancy anxiety, stress during pregnancy or unresolved trauma) on pregnancy complications, pregnancy outcomes, and preterm delivery. That is my specialty, which your physician likely does not have.




What if your program doesn't work for me?


Every one of my clients has unqiuely different histories that bring them to the Path to Baby program. Some have experienced 1 loss, some multiple, some none. Some have delivered preemies that survived. Some delivered preemies that did not. Some have experienced infertility. Some have not. The unifying thread between each of my clients is this: They know without a doubt they do not want the past to repeat itself, and that's why each and every one of them has beat medical odds during their high-risk pregnancy. Now my lawyer does require me to remind you that just like your doctor, I cannot guarantee any particular pregnancy or birth outcome. But from what I've seen with all of the women I've worked with: If you're motivated to do the work, you're ready to be an active participant in your health, and you're completely committing to supporting your body through this pregnancy, you will experience shifts in your health.




What happens if I lose my baby during this program?


You're not going to go through that alone either. We have grief supports within the program that will guide you through navigating the soul-shattering experience of loss. This is all included when you join the program, at no extra cost to you.




How has this program helped your clients?


Check out the list of mind-blowing results listed above. These (and more that I couldn't fit on the page) are real client results.




Who should NOT join Path to Baby?


  • You're not willing to try something new.
  • You don't believe stress, anxiety, trauma, grief or your nervous system health impacts your pregnancy health.
  • You don't believe there's a way to influence your pregnancy health (even if you're high-risk)
  • You're not able to willing to invest in your prenatal health.
  • You're not willing to implement the suggestions and advice provided through the program.
My goal is to save you time, money, mental and physical energy by showing you how to improve the health of your pregnancy, so you need less medical interventions to stay pregnant and deliver your baby as close to term as possible. The sooner you do the work, the faster you will see results in your body.




I'm already pregnant, can I still join the program?


The sooner you join the program, the longer we have to support your body for a longer, healthier pregnancy. Ideally, join the program when you're TTC or are newly pregnant. That said, I have successfully worked with women who have joined in the second trimester, as well. If you are already in your 3rd trimester, you may not get the full benefit of this program, so email us for an alternative solution.




I'm not sure I can afford this program. What should I do?


Let's look at it this way: the average cost of hospitalization in the NICU is $3000 per day (and that cost increases depending on where you live)! In joining the Path to Baby program, you learn how to support your body to stay pregnant as long as possible and reduce the risk preterm birth and time in the NICU, if you need it at all. That could actually save you money in the long run, not to mention save you from the stress and overwhelm of navigating a high-risk pregnancy on your own. The program is extremely high touch and deeply personalized so you are not experiencing any ups and downs or details of your path to bringing your baby home alone. Additionally, it's not over when baby comes home, as much as we like to believe. So the investment in the Path to Baby program includes your membership into our Healing Hearts community for continued support postpartum and during your parenting journey after baby has come home. In my experience, when someone says the investment is too high, that usually means they don't yet understand what the program is about and the results that are delivered. So, if the program sounds right for you, I suggest scheduling your Path to Baby Strategy Call so we can discuss if this program is a good fit for you and review any payment plans that may be a good fit for your budget.




Does this program include my partner?


Yup! Partner support is included in this program too!




Ok I'm ready! Where do I begin?


Schedule your Healthy Pregnancy Strategy Call linked below!




What's the Path to Baby Strategy Call for?


We'll review your overall prenatal care, your history and journey to this point of your family-building journey and get an overview of the status of your nervous system and how it may be impacting your ability to get and stay pregnant. If you and I believe we're a good fit to work together through the Path to Baby program, we'll discuss what our work together will look like through your pregnancy. Please note, this call is not about getting free fertility, pregnancy or postpartum advice.




Do I have to decide on the call if I want to join the Path to Baby program?


Yes, ideally on the call or within 24 hours. There is no hard sell on the call (EW gross), but here's what I do know:
After working with so many women through this program, I can tell you that the women who experience the most success in the program by beating medical odds during their pregnancy are deeply motivated, know what they want, and take action quickly. This means, knowing that this is the right program for you, knowing that I can support you during your pregnancy, and being committed to following the suggestions and advice in the program consistently and regularly. The ideal client for the Path to Baby program is someone, who after learning how exactly I can support her to have a healthy high-risk pregnancy, is ready to begin immediately, determined to work consistently, and dedicated to see results. If that's you, let's talk! Schedule your call today. But, I don't want you to waste your time or your money, so if you're not ready to jump into a program that's shown to help women with a wide variety of backgrounds and histories beat medical odds by supporting their body to have a healthy pregnancy, hold off on scheduling the call for now. Read Pregnancy Brain, listen to episodes of Delivering Miracles®, follow me on Instagram, and check out the resources I have availble for you until you feel the time is right.




How long is the Path to Baby program?


You join now, and we work together for 12 months or 4 weeks after baby comes home (even if baby is in the NICU), whichever comes later.




I've already read your book, isn't that enough?


Maybe! For some women it is. But for some, they know that understanding their physiology during pregnancy on an intellectual level is a good start, but they want more. They want the live support, the personalized guidance, and they want to take the guesswork out of how to have a healthy pregnancy with a different outcome this time around. That's what Path to Baby provides - a much deeper level of support than you can ever receive from a book, customized to your specific situation.




What is the investment for the Path to Baby program?


The investment for the 12+ month, deeply personalized Path to Baby program averages out to approximately $1000-$2000/month depending on your payment plan. The exact breakdown of fees is dependent on the specific payment plan that is best for you and your situation. We will discuss these details on the Path to Baby Strategy Call.

More important, though, is first figuring out if you are a good fit for the program and whether I can help you, which is what we will determine on the Strategy Call.

If this program is not going to help you, the fee can be anything and it will be a waste of your money. But if you’re a good fit for the Path to Baby program and both of us feel I can help you, we can find a payment plan that works for your budget.

Schedule your Path to Baby Strategy Call so we can discuss how this program can help you support your body through your next high-risk pregnancy and so you can get benefit from this program that has helped countless women around the world beat medical odds.





Parijat Deshpande is the leading high-risk pregnancy expert, somatic trauma professional, speaker and author who teaches women how to deactivate their stress response before, during and after a high-risk pregnancy so they can give their baby a strong start to life. Her unique approach, developed after he long journey through infertility, loss, a high-risk pregnancy, and a lengthy NICU stay, has served hundreds of women to reclaim a safety and trust in their bodies that they thought was eroded forever. Parijat is the author of best selling book Pregnancy Brain: A Mind-Body Approach to Stress Management During a High-Risk Pregnancy. She is also the host of the popular podcast Delivering Miracles®, that discusses the real, raw side of family-building including infertility, loss, high-risk pregnancy, bed rest, prematurity and healing once baby comes home. Parijat is a Certified Trauma Professional and a Certified Clinical Trauma Specialist.