If you're searching for a crystal ball to reassure you everything will be ok, it's not the uncertainty of the future that's uncomfortable, but the the sensations of your present.
No judgment. I've been there too. (Hello Magic 8 Ball.)
After your pregnancy loss, stillbirth, preterm delivery, you've lived through how often things are not ok.
You *KNOW* anything can happen because you've lived through that awful rollercoaster of uncertainty, often with a devastating outcome.
So when you turn your attention to the future again, pleading someone to tell you THIS time it will be ok, it's your brain trying to find safety.
But let's be honest, you know that even if someone could guarantee that you'll have a healthy pregnancy & bring home your baby, you wouldn't believe it.
Why?
Not because of the uncertainty of the future or what you've been through.
It's because of the discomfort of the present.
Here's what I mean...
In a body that's living in its emergency state, our senses have changed.
We're cut off from some external & many internal senses as well. When we cannot feel our body, we cannot leave that emergency state. This is not a question of effort. It's physiology.
It's like walking in the dark, which can feel really scary. We have our hands out in front of us, searching for light.
Instead, if we embraced the darkness, the uncertainty of where we are, we actually feel more comfortable & stop searching for the *next* thing. Because we're comfortable AS we are, where we are.
Meaning, when you can feel your body & then tolerate those sensations (which is what most supports miss) without the need to fix anything, we stop looking to the future to give us the safety that we can create for ourselves right now. It's from that physiological state of safety that we can then do the preventative work to reduce your risk of pregnancy complications.
So when you ask, "But what do when I'm feeling scared about my next high-risk pregnancy?" the answer is this. Learn to feel your body again & tolerate what you feel without trying to fix it. How? That depends on each person & your specific physiology.
Click here to learn how we can partner together to help you stop looking for a crystal ball & get you to trust your body again.
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