Whether this is your wife’s first pregnancy or her 5th, bed rest is not what you had in mind when you thought about preparing for a new baby.
Pregnancy classes? Yes.
Reading to her growing bump? Maybe.
Becoming a full time butler, chef, housekeeper, chauffeur, entertainer, therapist, executive assistant and planner on top of husband and best friend? Not so much.
It’s awful. It’s hard. You don’t like it. She hates that so much has fallen on your shoulders and she can’t do anything to help.
And best case, this will go on for months.
You’re going to be more exhausted than you’ve ever been, burned out from the never ending days and nights. So when you’re doing things around the house and to help your wife, make sure they’re the right things that will actually help both of you.
Here are the top 4 things she needs from you right now
1. Schedule visitors. She is completely isolated from the world. As happy as she is to see you day in and day out, she misses being around her friends, even if she complains that she doesn’t want them to see her in her pajamas.
The reality is that most people, as well-meaning as they are, don’t visit nearly as often as they say they will. Life gets busy, things come up and some of them may genuinely feel like they don’t want to bother her.
Reach out to a few of her closest friends and tell them to bother her!
Of course remind them it’s no bother at all but their visits are much needed for her sanity! Help make it happen by coordinating a girl’s night or schedule in some one-on-one time with a few of her best friends.