When you lose your temper on your child, it doesn't make you a bad mother. Every single mother on this planet has done it. But it is an opportunity for growth and self-reflection so you can continue to be the best mother and raise the best version of your child. On this episode, we talk about those rage-filled moments, what they are, what they mean and how to make them stop.
Nicki shares what are Monster Mommy moments and why almost every single mother has experienced one
How your childhood wounds and experiences impact how often and when you have Monster Mommy moments
How Nicki blamed herself for being a bad mother before she realized what Monster Mommy moments were
How Monster Mommy moments look (HINT: It might remind you of some toddlers in your life)
How our experience learning about emotions impacts how we process emotions with our children
The reality that when a situation is over the emotoinal processing is over and how that belief is FALSE
The truth behind emotional suppression and how that goes counter to what our bodies are naturally doing to try and release the emotions
Why children push parents' buttons and what to do about it so you don't end up yelling and losing patience
When your reaction is not in proportion with the situation that is a clue to your childhood wounds
Why Nicki says 9 times out of 10 emotionally heated moments with the child are not about your child
A reminder from Nicki that children do not live in the future and do not have an agenda and what we can learn from that
What to do when you feel you don't have time, energy or bandwidth for self-reflection
How to give yourself what you're lacking
Why it's important to stop expecting life and others to give you what you want and how to give it to yourself
Nicki's take on "martyrdom syndrome" and how to overcome it
Nicki's #1 tip to stop the yelling at home
You are not a victim to Monster Mommy moments and you can do a lot to prevent them.
Resources from the show...
Learn more about Nicki's work with parents (Website)
How to manage your toddler's tantrums (Read and Watch Now)
Healing from Guilt, Grief and Trauma Postpartum Audio Workshop (Register now)
Get your copy of Pregnancy Brain: A Mind-Body Approach to Stress Management During a High-Risk Pregnancy (Read Now)
About the Guest
Nicki Paulun is an Integral Professional Coach™ specializing in Conscious Parenting. She is the author of the bestselling book "Unlock Your Parenting Potential: The Key to More Joy, Peace and Connection". Drawing on more than 20 years of experience in psychology, adult education, early childhood education, as well as her own personal transformation through parenting, Nicki brings passion, depth and compassion to her work. Her customized coaching programs provides her clients with the skills and capabilities to manifest a more authentic way of being. For information about her individual and couples coaching programs go to http://www.nickipaulun.com
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